Why do thin women feel that they are too fat?
It's May and June now, and the summer weather has become
dry and sultry. On the way to school,
Seeing all the beautiful sisters wearing short skirts and shorts,
I couldn't help but bring up the topic of dormitory people.
A: "Alas, the older sister's legs are super thin! And they are
very straight!"
B: "Well, you have a great figure! The waist is very thin!"
C: "Unlike me, the legs are still so thick"
B: "Your legs are still thick? Just kidding! It's obviously very
thin, okay?"
C: "No wow, I have thick calves, so I never wear shorts,
usually shorts, showing my thighs,
Or just wear a long skirt to cover it up. "
Both A and B expressed their shame, and finally drew an
imperfect end to this conversation with chubby classmate B's
unrequited love.
We are used to such conversations around us, especially among girls.
In academia, this phenomenon is named Fat Talk, referring to
the fact that women are often dissatisfied with their bodies,
And discuss this dissatisfaction among friends.
1.
I still remember Victoria's Secret that became popular some
time ago. The figures of the models are so good that we can
only
big difference?
A piece of news I saw some time ago reported that a woman
tried all kinds of plastic surgery, dieting, and exercise in order
to become the Barbie doll of her dreams, and finally became a
Barbie doll in life.
Regarding "fat talk", there are many examples in real life,
which generally involve the following five themes. We will find
that some people around us, even ourselves, often show these
behaviors:
(1) Compare yourself to your ideal body type and exercise
habits
(2) Fear and fear of getting fat
(3) Compare your eating and exercise habits with others
For example, we often choose to reduce our food intake or not
eat because we see others dieting to lose weight, thinking that
people who are thinner than ourselves are starting to lose
weight, and if we don't lose weight, we may die of fat.
(4) Evaluate the appearance of others
(5) Adopting methods and strategies of dieting and high-
intensity exercise
We will find that some people around us, even ourselves, often
exhibit these behaviors.
We often take those super-fit celebrities as our targets of
effort, compare them with classmates and colleagues who are
in good shape around us, repeatedly evaluate another person's
figure, or threaten
2.
I feel like I'm too fat
Some time ago, a certain actress lost dozens of pounds in
anger after pregnancy for the sake of her public image,
creating a legend in the weight loss industry, and then became
a hot topic due to her success in losing weight, and her public
image also turned the tide.
The image of "thin" actresses is also increasingly promoted in
the public media.
People gradually tend to equate "thinness" with good qualities
such as self-discipline, reasonable diet, and persistent exercise.
Like the goddess baby recognized by boys, she has a good
figure and a high face value. Therefore, more and more people
integrate a similar ideal body into their self-cognition and use
it as a standard for evaluating themselves.
Therefore, "skinny" is still the esteem of this era.
"Talking about obesity" is more common among girls and
shows a trend
with talking about being too fat?
Reason one:
The self-deprecating paradigm of social proof
"My legs are so thick, I envy your long legs."
Many women see talking about obesity as a coercive norm, a
self-deprecating model that is sanctioned by social groups.
In fact, repeatedly saying that you are
disgust, but is regarded as a normal phenomenon.
Have you ever found that there are always some girls around
who complain that their legs are too thick or their small belly
is too obvious, but every time they say it, they can get a
comforting response from others.
If things go on like this, she will affirm in her heart the
practice of talking about obesity, thinking that at least it will
not attract the disgust of others.
Reason two:
Talking about obesity reduces guilt
"Why am I gaining weight again? Let's eat Zumbo tonight?"
Talking about obesity can alleviate some of the guilt when
people engage in behavioral activities that may lead to weight
gain.
For example, a girl may say to others "I know eating this much
will definitely put on weight" while eating a buffet, in which
case the woman apologises to her friend for her food violation
rules, so she can Reduce guilt from
Reason three:
Reduce the feeling of powerlessness about your
"My figure is really bad!!!"
Because there is a big gap between ideals and reality, women
themselves do not have a very good figure, and they will feel
very hopeless in their hearts. Talking about obesity can let
women release the pressure of feeling that they are not in
good shape.
When talking about obesity becomes an outlet for stress, this
is a way for women to understand what they're thinking and
reduce their powerlessness and distress about their body
status.
In fact, there is no right or wrong in wishing you to be slim,
the key lies in the scope of your grasp.
If it is like in our daily life, when we try on clothes or go out to
eat a big meal,
body, and it is understandable to make fun of ourselves or
others.
Such a move can become a flavoring agent in life, allowing you
to pay attention to
ensure a healthy lifestyle.
But if you talk about these things a lot, and you put your
whole heart into thinking about these things, it's not worth the
money.
If there are always some friends around you who frequently
make you pay attention to these aspects, then you can also
consider staying away from
emotions are transmitted much faster than positive emotions,
and this will affect your state for a period of time.
3.
You thought you were just talking about obesity
Not so
In fact, talking about obesity has many disadvantages. For
example, it can lead to various
with the body, eating disorders, and negative emotions.
If people around you often talk about your body very
pessimistically, or talk to you about dieting and weight loss,
you will gradually feel unconfident and negative about your
body.
This kind of dissatisfaction will push the individual to resort
to some kind of weight loss plan, repeatedly demeaning
himself, and these negative ways to restore his inner balance.
If someone around you always tells you that you feel that your
figure is really bad, if she is fatter than you, it's okay, I'm
afraid she's thinner than you, prettier than you, if things go on
like this, you can't help but feel I will think, she is ugly, then I
will not say, will I be finished in the future.
important "shield" in some cases.
Shield ① Ask for comfort and hugs!
When people want comfort from other friends and elicit
"social confirmation", for example, a woman complains about
her body by saying "I feel like I'm fat today", she may be
expecting her friend to comfort her and hope you Be able to
respond by saying something like, "Stop, you know your legs
are thin, and I'm
Shield ② I'm fat, so I didn't pass the interview
There are many such situations in our
friend of mine, Andy, after she came back from the interview,
kept complaining about her figure, saying that she must be too
fat and not good-looking, so she did not pass the interview
without extra points. , and immediately began to lose weight.
for the main proportion of the
Shield ③ I must be too fat, he broke up with me
This kind of talk can also mask other potentially unspoken
issues, such as calling someone fat after a breakup to mask
anger and sadness after a breakup.
A friend of mine used to lose weight crazy for a period of time,
looking for information related to weight loss, and even joined
a weight loss group to discuss weight loss tips with each other.
I was very confused, because she belongs to the shapely body
weight?
But one day, she suddenly
that she always felt fat, insecure, and desperate about her
figure, but all of this was because her
abandoned her. This fact made her uncomfortable, and she
felt that attributing it to her body problems would make her
feel less painful about the breakup.
If you have been living up to this day, and occasionally there is
a phenomenon of "talking about obesity", and it does not
bother you, then after reading this article, you should consider
it as learning a new knowledge point. At the same time, you
can pass on your experience to those around you.
But if it brings you a lot of trouble, for example, it makes you
feel more and more inferior, or makes you feel a little
pessimistic about your future development, or it makes you
pay attention to your own life every
other unimportant things delay the business, and then hate
myself even
I think it is necessary for you to consider the reasons behind
your talk, use the forces around you to help you overcome
difficulties, give full play to the role of others as role models
and learn your own subjective initiative, and slowly change
yourself.
Lastly, I would like to say that there is still a long way to go in
the "fat talk", heroes and cherish it.
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